Learning to listen to children

Learning to listen to children

Listening is a delicate, much more difficult than it might seem.

It's already delicate if it relates to another who speaks the same language, using our conventions and our categories.

Becomes difficult with an "other" who speaks another language and adopt thought patterns different from ours and this is the case, listening to a child by the adult.

Communicating with a child is much more difficult than it might seem.

Good intentions are not enough.

Indeed, we could say little provocatively that good intentions are not enough, but not only, at times, are not required.

The actual communication with the child is a communication between two parties instinctive, so it is not mediated by intentions.

I can be in front of a child and have no intention to be interested in his problems, I can be distracted by other thoughts, but if that child has of himself hidden signs of an experience that somehow reminds of my childhood, I acknowledge those signs, even without being aware of it and will stay upset, even without being able to understand what troubled me.

The Authentic listening requires above all that those who want to know how to listen first listen to himself, recognizing their emotional universe and conflicts that the helping relationship with children can turn into him.

Can we really listen to a child , understand his needs, being able to keep in our minds his suffering, only if we make a challenging path of personal growth and we have agreed to face the child that we were.

Only by acknowledging our emotions and our suffering we can really put ourselves in the game and to have an authentic relationship with the children we meet.

Every vocation is special

Every vocation is special

"Mom, Dad I have to talk..." are words that, spoken with a certain tone, shudder, put a little bit of anxiety and shakes the wrists. 

Moments of communication important for sons and daughters who open their hearts and their projects to the people they care... "I decided to enter the convent," "I found the right person for me and I decided to get married..." . 

Every vocation that you share becomes for the listener a moment to stop and say, "My son or daughter is growing and is able to choose...".

Dear Parents, be happy when your son or daughter choose, every choice is the result of a personal journey that should not be diminished at all, rather they must applauded and helped to carry on with serenity.

Being a parents today

Being a parent today

In a society where values ​​and cultural references are numerous and styles of behavior, relationships, consumer, have become increasingly different, sometimes even contradictory to each other, it can be difficult for new generations to find a way to build a coherent own path identity. 

And the adults that are increasingly unlikely to appeal to the traditional concept of authority, as to be able to help their children do not feel lost in the face of life's difficulties? 

I'm just saying that parents need to learn to draw the rails for balanced growth, and at the same time learn how to get involved constructing various educational scenarios that then you share with other people who like us are called to live the experience of being a parents and educator.

Just a teacher

Just a teacher

Just a teacher to make a difference, but we want it to do.

The boys even today, maybe after some time, they recognize when a teacher has done something for him, even if it happens that we may never know.

And that's the beauty of our work: do it selflessly, without expecting any recognition.

Ask the teacher is a question of responsibility and to be truly must be imbued with the passion that you play all in the relationship with their students and not in a general recognition of the company.

It is not a job like any other and a "master" can be remembered for having contributed to the growth of a boys in a positive sense, or to render it more difficult.

Therefore, when those who teach is not the passion for what he teaches, but even more afraid of the report that has its own education with capital, it can also do harm.

The teacher who loves his work and his boys, however they may be, is aware of the greatness and, if you will, of the mystery of his profession, of what he professed in a Hippocr

atic oath ever uttered.

Educate

I leave you a few sentences that speak of the issue of education:

Educate is not what the teacher gives, but is a natural process that takes place spontaneously in the human, it is not acquired by listening to words, but by virtue of the experiences made in the environment.
The task of the teacher is not to talk, but to prepare and arrange a series of motives of cultural activity in a specially prepared environment.
(M. Montessori)
We often speak of the influence of the example, but we forget that we give an example to the children all the time and not only when we intend to do.
(S. Isaacs)
To raise a child it takes a whole village.
(Indonesian proverb)
The great wrong of educators is that young people will like what they like to old age or maturity; youth that life does not differ from mature, you want to abolish the difference of tastes and desires, that he wants the teachings, commands and the force of necessity, suppliscano experience.
(G. Leopardi)
The school should make good use of these sentences.

Educate

Give my thoughts to the world

Today, I want to give the world my words, they can reach you, surround you, comfort you, encourage you, pamper you.
Take away from your soul sadness and melancholy, replacing them with strength and hope.
May these words reach you, whenever you need it.

I care about every child

The labyrinth of life

If you enter a labyrinth know that there is only one way out, but do not know which of the many ways that open up before you from time to time lead you . 

The important is groping, trying again and again. 

When you find a blocked road you have to go back and take another. 

Sometimes the way that seems easier is not the right one, sometimes when you think you are closer to your goal, you're still far away and just a misstep to return to the starting point. 

You have a lot of patient, never let appearances deceive, do, as they say, one step at a time and in front of the forks, when you are not able to calculate the right choice, but you are forced to take risks, be ready to go back. 

There never Throw headlong action, which does not suffer passively the situation, but we coordinate actions, you make thoughtful choices, we propose to us, by way of hypothesis, intermediate goals, except to correct the route on the way to adapt the means to the end to recognize the wrong and to abandon them once they are recognized.

The labyrinth of life